The New York Times has a number of detailed articles, the latest March 18 here. What are the expectations in a dorm that one student and ask the other one to leave for intimate encounters? (This would apply to heterosexuals, too). What about the same problem in a small apartment. There are a lot of details (such as Tyler's reading Ravi's tweets) that make this a very complicated and bizarre, and yes tragic, case. We can only speculate on what was really on Tyler's mind, and that may be even more difficult to deal with. But "homohatred" is usually more obvious than it was here.
Lee suggested that adult children urge their parents to buy long-term-care insurance. "If it doesn't come from their pockets, it will come from yours." She explained the spend-down requirements for Medicaid.